Why I Went Natural #naturalhair #teamnatural


The age old argument of “real hair” versus “fake hair” is one taken extremely personally in the Black/ African American community. While this topic is often up for a long drawn out debate (in many times this debate ends with a bunch of name calling and gender bashing), I am going to take the time out to point out why going natural was the right choice for me and why I only see weaves as a costume accessory.



As a child my grandma (mom-mom) took great pride in doing my hair…Sulfur 8 and Cream of Nature were staples in our house. She would spend hours braiding my hair down and adding beads or other hair jewelry and would put up with my demands to only wear dresses until I was 5. I was taught at a very young age to be proud of the condition my hair was in naturally.

As I got older I really wanted to be like all the other girls and start straightening my hair. First we tried the hot comb on the stove, then my mother took me to a hair dresser who was not use to doing my type of hair. The trip to the hair dresser resulted in my hair being damaged. Going into middle school I was told I had no choice but to get a perm (a relaxer is the technical term).

I must say the dried out hair, the breakage, and the scalp scars were not worth the hassle.

I say that to point out people really need to be aware of what they are doing to their bodies. Dr Oz did a report you cannot miss on hair relaxers..
The Dangers of Hair Straighteners, Pt. 2

In high school I had a lot more control over my hair decisions and made the decision to go (and STAY) natural. It took a lot of hair therapy (and numerous trips to the braiding salon in the winter time) to get my hair back on track. Yes I added hair to my hair to protect it and to give me styling options, but that was the only time I made hair not my own part of my every day routine…not for the offensive topic of weaves.

I own pony tails and clip in weaves that I only wear when I am doing something related to being in the public view (professional shoots, hosting parties, and being the video talent) OR if I want to dye my hair (dye does not take to my hair and I refuse to bleach it first). I believe that the extra hair is part of the outfit/costume and does not define who I am. It has been awhile since I have done anything talent related so my disguises are collecting dust, which is fine by me. I have been debating on adding streaks to my hair so I may do a clip in row or two the SAME LENGTH as my hair. I am not going to down women who decide to wear a weave or a wig regularly…we are in America and we are free to do as we please. However, I see the use of weaves and wigs the same as wearing a mask.

Besides, I love the ability to going swimming whenever I want or to go for a walk in the rain when I want.

At some point, I will post my product secrets, until then think about the option of walking this earth the way God made you :)

Originally posted 2013-05-08 15:28:54. Republished by Blog Post Promoter

flashback from. June 20, 2013

Why I am Against the Big Chop #bc #bigchop

Why I am Against the Big Chop #bc #bigchop


I am not new to the “natural hair movement”. I wrote about my decision to go natural awhile ago  however I was asked how I felt about the “Big Chop”. This was my response:

I am against the “BC” for a number of reasons.

  1. Trust. The first reason is I simply do not trust myself or others with scissors. I have experienced issues with hair dresser who simply did not understand my texture of hair or wanted me to relax my hair simply so I would have to keep coming back to them. I only trust two hair dressers and one of which REFUSES to cut my hair. All the other hair dressers I have been to had to sneak off and get advice as to how to do my type of hair. After they called themselves “cliping my ends”, I left out with slip ends due to them using too much heat on my hair.
  2. Image. The second reason is our image or self esteem.  I hate putting it this way but often times we are judged by the length of our hair by ourselves and others. It can be discouraging to hear how you look like a boy, how you look sick, how you changed your appearance too drastically, or my favorite..you can’t grow hair. Now, I am not saying everyone falls to the pressure if what others think of you, but I will admit that hair is a very personal subject for women.
  3. Motivation. The third reason is more of a reflective nature. I am the type of person who needs to compare where they were to where they are. Seeing new growth that is unpermed next to my old habits will not only assure me my hair is growin, it will also show me the difference in textures (which a lot of women forget and fall back into what they call the “creamy crack” lifestyle).
  4. Unnecessary. The big reason I am against it is because..well..for what?!?! I mean, it isn’t like your hair isn’t going to grow without the BC (unless it simply is that damaged, and if that is the case none of these reasons apply). When I did grow out my relaxer, I did not do the bc. I did get braids for awhile and kept my hair in buns. I trimmed my hair the normal suggested times to cut off the relaxed hair, but keeping the relaxed hair prevented my natural hair from splitting.

I know people will disagree with my reasons, it is fine. I am speaking from the POV of someone who only had a relaxer in their hair once in their lifetime. What worked for me may not work for others. Just do what is good for you.

Originally posted 2013-12-05 09:01:53. Republished by Blog Post Promoter

flashback from. July 13, 2013